Comments on: When life gives you lemons… http://www.deancode.com/2008/04/10/when-life-gives-you-lemons/ Wed, 08 Sep 2010 11:03:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Mommiet http://www.deancode.com/2008/04/10/when-life-gives-you-lemons/comment-page-1/#comment-2510 Mommiet Thu, 15 May 2008 18:21:42 +0000 http://www.deancode.com/2008/04/10/when-life-gives-you-lemons/#comment-2510 Well, I've been so busy working two people's jobs that I haven't looked at ya'll's blog in over a month. Oops! So I just now read the posting above. Yeah, home ownership is not for the faint at heart. But ya'll's place is very cozy. The fact that it's sparsely furnished for now is just part of being in your first real home. We got those mailings too when we moved in August 2006 and had a new mortgage -- but saw they involved a third party. You're probably not losing money on the deal, someone else is just realizing the savings you would otherwise have if you were making twice-weekly payments directly to your mortgage company. I agree with Dad that you should at least threaten to take that outfit to court. Well, I’ve been so busy working two people’s jobs that I haven’t looked at ya’ll’s blog in over a month. Oops! So I just now read the posting above.

Yeah, home ownership is not for the faint at heart. But ya’ll’s place is very cozy. The fact that it’s sparsely furnished for now is just part of being in your first real home.

We got those mailings too when we moved in August 2006 and had a new mortgage — but saw they involved a third party. You’re probably not losing money on the deal, someone else is just realizing the savings you would otherwise have if you were making twice-weekly payments directly to your mortgage company. I agree with Dad that you should at least threaten to take that outfit to court.

]]> By: Kaston http://www.deancode.com/2008/04/10/when-life-gives-you-lemons/comment-page-1/#comment-2492 Kaston Mon, 14 Apr 2008 03:08:23 +0000 http://www.deancode.com/2008/04/10/when-life-gives-you-lemons/#comment-2492 I understand where you are coming from Wade, but we have a slightly different situation than you did at our age. The biggest of which is we don't have any kids. I do miss the money at BWW; the 50k was nice, BUT it was not worth the stress to me. I am very happy now and just got a huge raise-more than anyone else in the history of the company. We are not living above our means at all, we live right at it, so when a mid sized issue occurs, it sets us back, but we will recover. Our generation really does not have "savings" at all and we pay the price for that. As far as work and relationships go, Dean actually took a vacation day last week so we could see each other. That was the first time in a month we had a day off together because I work nights and weekends and he works days. Wade I wish you were able to follow your dream and not settle, but I know you did it for your new family. If only more people could have your level of selflessness. Dean got lucky and was able to go straight into is dream job AND get paid well for it. I am having to work harder to get to my place, but I am just grateful that I have the option to choose unlike you did. On a future note, I write when I am very excited or stressed, so my words are usually more rash than the situation merits. I just get down -and being a pessimist- I think of the worst and write about it. Even though I am usually not a very emotional person, my writing is full of it. I understand where you are coming from Wade, but we have a slightly different situation than you did at our age. The biggest of which is we don’t have any kids. I do miss the money at BWW; the 50k was nice, BUT it was not worth the stress to me. I am very happy now and just got a huge raise-more than anyone else in the history of the company. We are not living above our means at all, we live right at it, so when a mid sized issue occurs, it sets us back, but we will recover. Our generation really does not have “savings” at all and we pay the price for that. As far as work and relationships go, Dean actually took a vacation day last week so we could see each other. That was the first time in a month we had a day off together because I work nights and weekends and he works days.

Wade I wish you were able to follow your dream and not settle, but I know you did it for your new family. If only more people could have your level of selflessness. Dean got lucky and was able to go straight into is dream job AND get paid well for it. I am having to work harder to get to my place, but I am just grateful that I have the option to choose unlike you did.

On a future note, I write when I am very excited or stressed, so my words are usually more rash than the situation merits. I just get down -and being a pessimist- I think of the worst and write about it. Even though I am usually not a very emotional person, my writing is full of it.

]]> By: dad http://www.deancode.com/2008/04/10/when-life-gives-you-lemons/comment-page-1/#comment-2491 dad Sun, 13 Apr 2008 01:16:29 +0000 http://www.deancode.com/2008/04/10/when-life-gives-you-lemons/#comment-2491 OK - so I was quiet when y'all lived over your heads apartmentwise at the loft and didn't say anything when you bought a house bigger and nicer than any of your parents ever hadr - hope you'll get over me saying this now - I see only one way to fix the situation you are in now and that is to go back to a job that pays living wage money such as Buffalo Wild Wings was paying and if you want a sex related job that can be a fine part time job or volunteer work. An extra $20 K a year would put you closer to where you need to be. I have worked 50-70 hours a week my entire life because it is what I had to do and just tried, really tried sometimes, to find some ways to enjoy it at some level. Relationship-wise, even now Jan goes to work Sunday afternoon and most weeks I literally do not see her again til Wed. evening. I do wish for y'all you are able to have it better before you reach my age OK - so I was quiet when y’all lived over your heads apartmentwise at the loft and didn’t say anything when you bought a house bigger and nicer than any of your parents ever hadr - hope you’ll get over me saying this now - I see only one way to fix the situation you are in now and that is to go back to a job that pays living wage money such as Buffalo Wild Wings was paying and if you want a sex related job that can be a fine part time job or volunteer work. An extra $20 K a year would put you closer to where you need to be. I have worked 50-70 hours a week my entire life because it is what I had to do and just tried, really tried sometimes, to find some ways to enjoy it at some level. Relationship-wise, even now Jan goes to work Sunday afternoon and most weeks I literally do not see her again til Wed. evening. I do wish for y’all you are able to have it better before you reach my age

]]> By: Kaston http://www.deancode.com/2008/04/10/when-life-gives-you-lemons/comment-page-1/#comment-2490 Kaston Sat, 12 Apr 2008 16:36:59 +0000 http://www.deancode.com/2008/04/10/when-life-gives-you-lemons/#comment-2490 The guy who had the house before us never paid his electric bill so there was no electricity for the inspector to check. The inspector did mention that the meter base needed to be secured better to the exterior wall. As for the termites, when the inspection was done, it was dormant season for termites. He told us to check in the spring and we did. This whole area has termites we later learned. The guy who had the house before us never paid his electric bill so there was no electricity for the inspector to check. The inspector did mention that the meter base needed to be secured better to the exterior wall.

As for the termites, when the inspection was done, it was dormant season for termites. He told us to check in the spring and we did. This whole area has termites we later learned.

]]> By: BAV http://www.deancode.com/2008/04/10/when-life-gives-you-lemons/comment-page-1/#comment-2489 BAV Sat, 12 Apr 2008 13:45:00 +0000 http://www.deancode.com/2008/04/10/when-life-gives-you-lemons/#comment-2489 So sorry about the shocking "house" you've been sold. Wish I'd had a more aggressive approach to your plans. It might not have helped. We're not used to such dirty dealing around here. And yes, you might want to invest in a suite against either/both the mortgage holder or the home inspector (surely there was one). A small claims court filing could cost you as little as $100. - $200. Keep careful records, etc and an attorney would be optional. Love Grandad, BAV So sorry about the shocking “house” you’ve been sold. Wish I’d had a more aggressive approach to your plans. It might not have helped. We’re not used to such dirty dealing around here.
And yes, you might want to invest in a suite against either/both the mortgage holder or the home inspector (surely there was one). A small claims court filing could cost you as little as $100. - $200.
Keep careful records, etc and an attorney would be optional. Love Grandad, BAV

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